From then on it becomes a matter of gaining personal freedom and owning your own love life.
The two most common triangles are: son-mother-father and wife-son-mother.
When the narcissistic mother has dug her claws into her dependent son you can pretty much bet there are underlying marital problems in the mother’s marriage to her husband.
It’s healthier to heal the hurt as loss and learn how to make the best life for yourself with mature forms of love as an adult person.
A son’s efforts to ‘make peace’ between his wife and his mother, while walking the ‘line’ between them, is quite demanding.
Det er en fuldstændig kopi af dagens avis, men med langt flere fordele.
Med Politikens e-avis kan du let danne dig et overblik over avisen og springe direkte til din favoritsektion.You married a man who has not yet separated emotionally from his mother. One very obvious sign is she (mother) will be trying to control her son, you, your marriage, up close and from a distance not long after you’ve married her son.The message to you, his wife (or lover, if you want to drop the married part) is, you can marry my son but I stay number one in his emotional life. The problem is, your husband has not yet left his mother. If you don’t leave your mother you don’t have the emotional space to be truly married.We are supposed to put a big part of the love we have inside into our own lives. In my experience, once sons in this trap start feeling bad and looking for a way out, this idea of having personal choice and rights has the potential of putting a pretty healthy fire in their bellies. When your mother-in-law is still pulling the strings on her son, things can get pretty dicey especially when there is conflict between you and your husband.