“This is in spite of the fact that I was awarded primary custody by the judge, who thought she was overbearing.” Apparently his ex-wife had a vendetta against him.“She even accused me of having an affair with their college-age babysitter,” he says. Now that both girls have kids of their own, they are reluctant to leave me alone with my grandchildren.But I am worried about his mental health.” When Divorce Fosters Disunion Coleman says divorce may be the single most common cause of family alienation.
“I called him to say we were sorry that we had spoken negatively about his in-laws,” she said.
“He shouted at me, ‘You just don’t it.’ He’s right; I don’t.
“Even people who have healthy relationships with their adult children enter a stage when they don’t need to focus so much on parenting.
So give yourself permission to put the estranged child heartache on the back burner while you enjoy new experiences,” Kuczmarski suggests.
“I know getting involved with that guy was a mistake, embarrassing and traumatizing for my daughter,” Kay acknowledges. I don’t know how to get her to accept my apology.” Estrangement: The Silent Epidemic Many families endure fights, says Susan Kuczmarski, an expert on family relationships who teaches at the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern University, but some of the feuds linger, and the chasms that separate parents and their adult children are among the most painful.
“Because these stories are so tragic,” Kuczmarski says, “a lot of people don’t share them.” Joshua Coleman, is co-chair of the Council on Contemporary Families who runs a webinar for parents who want to improve relations with their adult children.
“At first Emma would invite us over for holidays, yet none of her family would speak to us.
When we asked Adam what was going on, he just shrugged.
The Experience Project hosts a support group for parents of disaffected children.
The stories are heart-wrenching — no matter how old the children, the parents want them back in their lives.
Then he said he was annoyed with for being so petty. Eventually Adam stopped visiting us too,” she continues.