You might be comfortable playing together at group parties.You might be fine with you or your partner having sex but not falling in love, or falling in love but not having sex.The truth is, many men are bi-curious, and being in an open relationship can be the perfect way to explore sex with people of different gender identities.
Sure, being non-monogamous means you’re living your life outside the box, but poly people come in as many shapes and sizes as monogamous people do.
I know poly people who get together for LARPing in the park, poly people who are obsessed with fermenting vegetables, poly people who go to PTA meetings and football games.
Open relationships work for people of all classes, ages, races, orientations, religions, and more.
Sadly, I have seen this double standard in action, especially in the straight swinging scene (in which couples “swap” partners): Women are encouraged to explore sex with women (while their male partners watch), but men are not encouraged to indulge the same curiosity.
“Monogamish.” “Ethical slut.” “Polyamorous.” “In an open marriage.” These days, it can that seem there are as many words for people who engage in non-monogamous relationships as there are LGBTQIA signifiers.
If you have friends who are non-monogamous, you might be curious: How does it work for them, and how could it work for you?
But just because you have that person in common doesn’t necessarily mean you like one another, and that’s O. Learning to be civil and kind is a good practice, and if you have a metamour, you shouldn’t feel pressure for your relationship to be more than cordial.
After all, one of the benefits of poly is for each partner to have separate interests; if you’re too close to your metamour, your partner’s relationship with them may not feel like a separate space anymore.
You might want to live with multiple partners, or have babies with certain partners but not others.