My good friend who is also 30, was hooking up with a 24-year-old and is now in a relationship with him. Out of curiosity, I’d also like to know how old is too old?As we’ve discussed before in Love, Kate, the agreed-upon metric for how-low-can-you-go is half your age plus seven, which puts you both in the green zone.People reported distinct age preferences for marriage; a serious relationship; falling in love; casual sex; and sexual fantasies. Based on the figures Buunk and colleagues (2000) provided (and thus the numbers are only informed approximations), I replotted their data superimposing the max and min age ranges defined by the half-your-age-plus-7 rule.
However, these alliances very seldom produce a committed partnership, and even more rarely survive past 10 years.
In couples where the age gap approaches generational, the older partner is under a constant and significant stress.
One of my most memorable experiences was dating a guy 20 years older when I was 21. Still, real-life couples rarely have a generation-long discrepancy between them.
He was amazing and so much more sophisticated than boys in my university group. Most often in married couples a man is older than a woman.
Men’s preferred minimum partner age: Let’s start with minimum age preferences reported by heterosexual men.
In Figure 1, the solid black line represents the rule’s calculation for minimum acceptable range.The practical arguments against dating a much-younger guy are that he won’t be able to relate to you, and that he won’t be able to give you what you need—which I guess ostensibly means commitment, a baby, sexual experience and dinner at Sotto Sotto, where he acts normal when you see Drake.Not being able to get what you want is, however, what an older friend of mine (yes, I once dated him) thinks about dating women his own age: they’ll want to get into a ring-house-car-kids scenario immediately.Women who are fun, smart, stylish, and interesting are used to being heroine-worshipped by a certain kind of guy—also smart, maybe shy—but that becomes less of an acute experience around thirty-ish when many of those guys have been stung by life, and get less impress-able. So, as long as you’re in that green zone and having fun and not expecting (or wanting) shit you’re likely not going to get from him? What is the acceptable minimum age for your own (and others’) dating partners?When dating, we are more open to trying out new things, thus a wider gap we list as acceptable. We had very little to talk about or discuss, and never been very close. There was really nothing connecting us except our interest in each other.