It's not unusual for exes to work things out and get back together, not long after splitting up. He'll have emotional issues ranging from guilt to anger, not to mention the financial issues he'll be dealing with. Sometimes he may want to talk about it but at times he may just want to be alone with his thoughts, or talk to a guy friend.
Also, if you feel overwhelmed by everything he's bringing to the relationship, you might not be ready for this relationship. Look for signs that he needs a little space, and don't make a big deal about it. Some signs to look for are: As his new lover, be supportive when it comes to his children if he has any.
These men "tend to be more patient, less self-centered and more inspired to please a woman." Dating expert Scott Carroll, MD, who's a formerly divorced, now married man, agrees. If he imagined post-wedding life to be perfect before he was divorced, he knows better now.
This is not the position you want to find yourself in during the relationship, as it will not only cause you a lot of frustration, but it will frustrate your partner as well.
Nor should you feel, in a manner, that you are being compared to his ex-wife, nor should you try to emulate her. He is interested in you for who you are, not who you can become - least of all his ex. Try not to get into lengthy conversations about the relationship he had with his ex.
It's a difficult thing to go from full-time father to part time. If he chooses not introduce you to his kids right away, it may be because he wants to protect his kids from another disappointment.
Any battles between you and his kids will be a losing one for you. The relationship is new, and neither of you know if it will last.
"Men with kids understand your schedule, lifestyle, priorities and responsibilities because they have a similar life experience," she says.11. At the very least, Moore says, divorcés are more money-savvy than pure bachelors.
Odds are, "the divorced man has completed his education and is more settled in his career," since he had already hit the married life stage.
"Divorced men may be done having kids after one marriage," so if you don't want any, he won't push the issue unlike some single, childless men, she says.
On the other hand, Lewis says that divorced men tend to be more open to moms. Carroll says, divorced men are more established professionally and may make more money than single guys who've never been married.
A year will give him time to be alone and get accustomed to single life and be living on his own again, which is an important transition.
Also giving him a year to get himself together will also ensure that the relationship between him and his ex is officially over.
"I have dated divorced men who've admitted they wish they had been more romantic, listened more, brought their wives flowers more often or had been more complimentary to their women," she says. He's "house-broken." Already having been married, divorced men come "trained," as Lewis puts it."They seem to naturally offer to do things that a lot of never-been-married don't think to do for another person," taking her car for an oil change to bringing her breakfast in bed. Carroll adds, in addition to being less attentive, men who have never been married typically need time to learn basic things like putting the seat down to letting their partners cry it out without trying to fix the issue. If he has kids, he's more accepting of yours—or your childless status.