Even if the sex was consensual it may well just be rubbish sex because they were both not really doing the kinds of sex that they actually find hot.
“For the first few weeks of the relationship I was topping him and it was okay – it was his first time and didn’t really know what to do so I took the lead.
Consider these common idioms related to or referring to sex that may or may not make sense in the context of your dream.
You may think of others which can help you determine what your sexual dreams mean to you.
Often people who are active, a leader, opinionated, outgoing, loud, a provider are seen as being ‘the masculine one’ and so the top. So people often rely on stories for who ‘should’ be the top and who ‘should’ be the bottom.
As you can see a lot of this stuff is based on some pretty big assumptions and stereotypes that you might not agree with. The man, the most masculine, the person with the penis, the dominant one, the more confident one or the one who has done it before will be the top or will ‘top’.
He really liked that.”“It’s a turn on for me that the other person really takes control.
There was this one time when the other person stopped at the beginning and asked if everything was okay – I was just lying there and she was worried that I wasn’t into it.
Sometimes people also decide who is the top and bottom by thinking about their different personalities.
Often people who are kind, caring, compassionate, quiet, a sharing type are seen as being ‘the feminine one’ and so the bottom.
The simple explanation is ‘who puts their dick inside the other person’ but it’s more complicated than that. It can also be who is more active (top) or passive (bottom) during sex. The top might have control over the other person about things like; what kind of sex that they have, how they do it, or the relationship as a whole.
Someone can be a top without putting their dick inside someone. This can be done with consent and can be totally fine (ie the bottom agrees to this).
For a lot of people, sex isn’t really about the dynamic but just the kinds of sexual activities they may enjoy and working out what they do, when they do it and how they do it.