"As soon as I read the interview, I knew I wanted to make this documentary." That was July 1.Bernhard realized he had less than a week to capture the Haywards' story before they boarded a plane for Thailand and the opportunity would close. Bernhard had been raised Mormon as well, moving from one part of America to another.That was around the time that director Torben Bernhard heard of Eri Hayward's story.
One of the hardest parts, she says, was watching her sister begin dating. The family decided to send her to Japan to stay with her grandparents in hopes that a change of scenery might help.
One day, Eri was watching television when a panel on trans people came on.
Hinckley's "Proclamation" also categorically denied anyone whose gender identity was different from their assigned sex, stating: In the premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshiped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body....
We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. Any confusion about this would, again, "bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets." But there remains a large gap in LDS theology, the anticipation of further revelation.
"My grandmother turned to me and was like, 'Oh, this is all about you! When she returned to America, Eri approached her father and told him what she felt to be true about herself.
"[S]he came in to me," Ed Hayward recalls, "and she said, 'Dad, I want you to know I'm not really gay.To permit such would be to make light of the very serious and sacred foundation of God-sanctioned marriage and it's very purpose, the rearing of families.Citing Hinckley and the 1995 proclamation, Bernhard says he became frustrated with the tension between what had been revealed to the LDS leadership "for this moment of time" and what remained a "mystery left to be resolved." Bernhard felt that the LDS Church, as he understood it, was presenting people with an impossible dilemma.Like much of America and other branches of Christianity, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has been reexamining its position on marriage, gender roles, and sexual expression.It was only last year that they changed their position on female missionaries, allowing them to depart at an earlier age.As part of that process, five years ago, Bernhard broke from the Latter-day Saints.