“Trust me, a date appreciates it when you’ve made plans,” says Headlee.
“If you ask where they want to eat, it often sounds like you’ve put no thought or preparation into that all-important first date.” If you’re not going to set a destination before meeting up, at least come armed with some options and ask what they’d prefer.
In addition, people automatically assume if you don’t have a good relationship with your parents, then you have mommy or daddy issues, which may not be the case.” On the flip side of this, though, is how to tell your partner’s relationship with their mother is actually a problem: These are the 6 Signs His Relationship with His Mother Is a Total Deal Breaker.
This question implies a more intimate question: Are you having sex with anyone else?
And the first date is simply too soon to be asking about this.
“First dates should be all about getting to know someone on a lighter note,” says Lisa Ronis, a matchmaker. I have clients who are caught between a rock and a hard place because they don’t want to waste time, but I advise them to wait until they know the person awhile before asking.
And so many times, the topic comes up organically.” It might seem like asking this up front could save you some time, but it can backfire.
This is maybe seen as an endearingly awkward comment, but it can come off badly.
“You probably don’t drink as much as you think, and discussing topics like this even as a joke can come across wrong if someone doesn’t know you yet,” Candice A explains.
“The topic of sex isn’t something that should be taken lightly or brought up too soon.” Or any other question related to your appearance.
“These are loaded questions and you may not be happy with the answers,” says Rosalind Sedacca, a dating and relationship coach. “You definitely don’t want to put someone on the spot by asking if they have dated other people of your race or religion on a first date,” she says.
“Newsflash: We are all humans,” says Michelle G, a certified matchmaker and dating coach.