By Mike Mahler"I don't think you were put here to please everybody; that would be horrible.You have to have some kind of a stand and stand against something as well.
Many of the greatest human beings were people who refused to be quiet and accommodate the wishes of others.
Gandhi refused to move from his seat on a train and as a result was literally thrown off the train.
If not, you're just being accommodating."- Rocco Deluca A few weeks ago I was talking to my friend, Harley Flanagan, about my latest kettlebell DVD on fat loss.
As many of you know, Harley's the founder of the NYC hardcore band, , and is working on a new CD (which I’m financing) that'll be out soon. But that's a story for another time, so let's get back to the conversation I had with Harley: while Harley likes my DVD, he thinks I'm missing the mainstream market with my personality and teaching style.
In a recent episode of , actor Matt Damon said that winning an Academy Award shouldn't be the focus of an actor--the focus should be the craft itself and doing the best job possible.
The best job possible comes from being genuine, and in the moment, rather than being focused on approval from others.You're no longer a real person, but a pinball in the game of life being thrown from one side of the table to the other--not an empowering way to live, to say the least.There's a that comes from having the deck stacked against you and prevailing; those are the times when you discover what you're made of and are fully alive.Sure, some accommodation is necessary and we can't always have things our way, but letting others walk all over us and decide how have to explain your actions to others nor get their approval. Well, they weren't going to like you anyway so it's not a big deal.It's a liberating feeling knowing you don't have to take crap from people; you can stand your ground and do what's best for you instead of living a fear-based, accommodating lifestyle.You know what's going to happen in the first ten minutes and thus drift into oblivion for the next two hours.