The Jewish approach warns us not to “love in spite of yourself”, but to love “because of yourself”. Enter into the love relationship with your eyes open, not with your eyes closed.Don’t accept blind dates, unless you know who the potential partner is.
LETS start with an obvious statement about New Year's Eve kissing - don't try and kiss anyone who doesn't want to be kissed!
Right, now that's out of the way, when it comes to why we smooch, it turns out we've got everyone from the Romans to the Vikings and Germany to thank.
Let the woman use her “feminine charm”; it’s her legitimate prerogative, a healthy manifestation of her femininity.
It’s quite one thing to be charmed by it, but don’t be taken in don’t let it blind you; don’t fall for it.
All this is a matter of decency, honesty and fairness to yourself, to the other person involved, and to your family and Jewish tradition.
It is a pre-condition of authentic and lasting love.
The Roman Saturnalia parties involved ripping up the social rule book.
Masters would serve slaves at the banquet table, gambling was permitted and gifts were exchanged.
To be ruled by one’s emotions and feelings, uncontrolled and undirected by logic, values and clear thinking, with no clear sense of goals and responsibility, is to ignore the only factors which can establish a firm foundation for a permanent and mature life-long relationship.