It’s no wonder, then, that text message miscommunications were a daily source of stress and anxiety.It was yet another box to check as we sought a significant other: textual chemistry.
In a 2015 poll by the Gravitate Research Group, 80% of Americans said they prefer texting to voice calls, and the average American spends 26 minutes texting every day.
So texting compatibility can be an important signifier of how communication would work in a long-term relationship.
A 24-year-old friend and medical student living in Chicago, Madeleine Boesche, says texting issues convinced her to break things off with an older man she was seeing.
“He was usually very prompt in his replies, but the way he phrased his messages was always stilted, dry and emotionless,” she says.
In his book , the comedian tells of a time a woman he had recently seen was slow to respond to texts, leading Ansari to wonder whether he had done something to turn her off or even whether she had died.
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But unlike the phone call, which has been around for decades, texting and messaging are new enough that no one can agree on what the hard and fast rules are, which means a typo might doom a future relationship.
A winky face may be creepy to one person and friendly to another.
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